Emotional Terrorists Are at Work, Stirring Trouble; Eight Signs from Dr. Vali Hawkins Mitchells New Book ‘The Cost of Emotions in the Workplace’ : Recovering Hard Drives
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Brookfield, CT (PRWEB) March 31, 2014
Weve all seen and felt them at work – and maybe even been recruited by or been a victim of their handiwork. Psychologically, Emotional Terrorists (ETs) seek and find pleasure in the discomfort of others and are experts in using emotions as weapons and strategies to achieve their agendas.
Dr. Vali Hawkins Mitchell, a nationally recognized clinical psychologist, consultant, and author of the new book ‘The Cost of Emotons in the Workplace’ in managing workplace emotions, defines Emotional Terrorism: Emotional mechanisms and behaviors to force an emotional agenda on someone else with the intention of controlling a situation, or accumulating territory, real, perceived, or symbolic.
Hapless employees may not even know the roles theyve been assigned in this drama. When the script and cast assignments of good guys/bad guys, heroes and villains are written by the Emotional Terrorist instead of the manager, administration, or significant influencers, then the question becomes whos the director of the show. Whos really running a department or company? It might surprise.
Dr. Mitchell gives eight primary attributes of Emotional Terrorists, noting they areexperts at using information to deny accountability, manipulate the vulnerable, groom new victims, litigate to gain position, or defend their own threatened innocence.
1) Entitlement. Emotional Terrorists (ETs) believe they deserve more than anyone else. Entitlement leans toward justification, self- aggrandized thinking, which affords permission to take from others. For example, an ET thinks: Im entitled to extra time off, and since I have my co-worker Suzie under my control, Ill make it look like shes not working as hard as I am. She can take the rap for me later and get angry, which I can use to complain that Im a victim of her moods. And if the manager doesnt give me the day off, Ill start telling people hes having an affair.
2) Bulletproof. ETs are mysteriously special, immune to consequences, and unquestionably correct. They might blatantly steal and brag about it. They see themselves as increasingly omniscient and omnipotent, and begin to behave over-the-top and become less willing to be managed.
3) Antagonistic. Antagonism is hostile. Its mission is chaos, not the change requested. ETs create an atmosphere of tension and conflict hidden behind polite behaviors. They enjoy finding and pushing the vulnerable until theyre slightly off balance. They have an amazing capacity to keep conflict going even in the midst of peacemakers. Something or someone else often management – is the problem.
4) Entrenched. ETs dont quit, dont back down, and are willing to sacrifice others. They see often themselves as martyrs. They refuse to see a workable solution or shared interests. Entrenchment is all-or-nothing, win-lose thinking. ETs dont let anything deter them from their goal of control.
5) Multi-talented. ETs are always thinking of new and better ways to create chaos, and have to be multi-talented to accomplish their mission. Managers need to be more talented than the terrorist and think beyond their own niceness in order to find creative solutions and risk preventions.
6) Able to attract innocent supporters. ETs deftly recruit followers by making them feel injured, special, entitled, and eventually bulletproof. ETs dont hesitate to undermine a managers authority. Expert at playing the victim, they switch roles to maintain position.
7) Charismatic or tragic. To attract supporters, ETs use charm and sadness, counting on the denial and resistance of nice people to make excuses for them. Disenfranchised employees are especially vulnerable to ETs. Tragic or sad performances from ETs appeal to helpers, lost nurturers,co-dependents, and the need-to-feel-needed people. ETs dont really want to share, partner, or collaborate; the purposes behind their activities are self-focused and exploitive.
8) Hostage takers. ETs take people and worksites hostage. They use the workday captive audience to pull off an emotional incident, and then watch the consequences unfold like a soap opera theyre writing. Think of this as an emotional drive-by shooting where the victims cant call for help or run away.
Solutions are fairly simple. Dr. Vali Mitchell s new book The Cost of Emotions in the Workplace, outlines the full range of skills and tools necessary to deal with Emotional Terrorists. Turn the light on the issue of Emotional Terrorism for all employees. Once everyone recognizes ET behavior, the gig is up. Not unlike cockroaches who avoid the light of day, these difficult employees arent happy in an environment where everyone knows them for what they are. Expose their work, and the Emotional Terrorist will most often quietly leave on their own.
‘The Cost of Emotions in the Workplace: The Bottom Line Value of Emotional Continuity Management’ is available on Amazon.com.
Dr. Vali Hawkins Mitchell holds a Doctorate in Health Education and Masters degrees in Applied Psychology and Expressive Arts Therapy. She is a highly regarded public speaker, trainer, author, consultant, and educator.
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